In a perfect world, we’d all receive nothing but compliments and praise for every aspect of our lives. But it’s not a perfect world. The world we all live in is full of conflict and sometimes we do something outstanding which warrants recognition and praise. Why, then, would parents go out of their way to make sure their children receive nothing but constant positive feedback and praise for every tiny thing they do? How does that prepare them for the real world? Sure, initially you might change the mind of your first, or even second, manager/supervisor, but not everyone’s going to be accommodating forever. Sooner or later, probably sooner, managers are going to realise what a waste of time it is to have to spend so much time patting backs all day rather than getting on with the work day.
This morning as I drove to work, I was listening to NPR and there was a story about the current work force of 18-25 year olds – the Me Generation – and how companies are now hiring consultants for help with praising these workers so they don’t lose them. So now employees are being recognised for showing up on time. For completing work. Um… excuse me, but isn’t that what you were hired to do? I don’t know of any company in the world which hires people who aren’t going to show up for work – or not at all – or who aren’t going to actually do the work they were hired to do. Awards of any kind should be given to those who go above and beyond what’s expected of them on a daily basis. Not for doing the things you were hired to do.
I’ve noticed, lately, that many places this age group works – like the Quizno’s across the street from work here – has a tip jar. Sorry, but your services do not warrant tips. I only tip at a restaurant where I sit down and my meal is brought to me and a few other places. Not at a fast food establishment.
The parents of these young adults have done them a horrible disservice. The other female in my office is 25 and I told her about the story I listened to and she thought it was a joke. She works the same as the rest of us and I’m the one closest in age to her with a 10 year gap. So I realise it’s not every single individual in that age group, but it’s a good portion of them this needy when consulting firms have popped up to help managers/supervisors deal with how to keep them happy.